Moving house to a new place together is a big step for every couple and a huge challenge for your nerves. You think you know someone inside out, but living together takes the relationship to a whole different level. Although living with your loved one may seem like the best thing that could ever happen to you, at time your partner’s plainly weird behaviour will grind your gears. One such occasion is the decoration of your shared space. No matter how long you have been together, you will definitely experience a clash of tastes while designing your first home.
Compromises are the key to managing your differences. Mixing and matching different styles can be quite difficult. With these simple and effective tricks you will be able to create a well-designed and inviting space that displays the tastes of both partners.
Decide what stays and what goes
Both you and your loved one have items from your old place that you would like to bring in your new home. Let each of you make a list of the things you want to take in your shared space. Do this before the relocation. In this way you will know what type of moving services you will need. Then compare your lists and discuss what you will keep. But, what happens when likes and dislikes don’t match?
Be open to compromises
Neither of you will be happy if you live in a place that doesn’t reflect your personality. The same way both partners bring special things to the relationship, they can do the same with their shared living space. You may hate your loved one’s record collecting or extravagant style, but this is who they are. Embrace your weirdness and use it to design a truly unique and personal place.
Make a list of the items that require the approval of both partners
Big purchases like a new television or a sofa should be discussed. It is bad moves to go behind your partner’s back and buy something they may not like. This is a sign of a lack of respect and may seriously damage your relationship. If it is a quite expensive piece, you both need to agree on that.
House removals projects are a great excuse to get some new stuff. This will also help to avoid arguments down the line. Make time in your schedule to go around furniture stores, flea markets or antique shops. If your loved one is hesitant about the idea, you can look up some things online.
Figure out the pieces you can both concede on
You don’t care about electronics, but you are obsessed with home accessories? Let your partner pick the electronic appliances, while you focus on the picture frames and the throw pillows. In this way both partners will contribute to the design of your home and you work towards a common goal.
Design dilemmas vs. relationship issues
Don’t confuse your arguments about the design of your place with more serious relationship problems. Pent-up aggression tends to get released during times of changes such as a moving house process. Avoid turning decisions about your place into a platform for discussing bigger issues. Often stress and exhaustion can add up to the problem. If the wall colour in the living room turned into an argument about whose mom is worse, then get a rest.
If you manage to get over your differences and to resolve your issues calmly, you will be able to create a space that truly represents everyone who lives there.